The ex-husband of Nollywood actress Ireti Doyle, Patrick Doyle has sent a message to his gender.
Taking to his Facebook page, he stated that nothing tests a man’s essence as when his ego and dignity are rubbished by a humiliating snub or gesture from a person with whom he once shared intimacy. According to him, at such times, it’s best not to reach in the moment; rather, one should pause and consult his Maker and never address the humiliation in the public space.
He disclosed how a dear friend of his is hurting as a result of his ex-wife’s actions, which appeared to humiliate him and he responded publicly. Though he understands how hurt he was and his reaction, endorsing it is two different things.
“Nothing tests a man’s essence as when his ego and dignity are rubbished by a humiliating snub or gesture from a person with whom he once shared intimacy At such times, it is best not to react in the moment but rather pause and consult your maker. More importantly, never address a humiliation from such a person in the public space.
There is a Yoruba adage that literally translates as “The world should never see the perspiration of a husband on the chest of his wife.” Meaning whatever a man does for, to, and with his wife, whether ex or current, should remain between them.
A dear friend of mine is hurting as a result of his ex-wife’s actions, which appear to humiliate him, and he has responded publicly. I understand his hurt, and to an extent, I understand his reaction. However, understanding his reaction and endorsing it are 2 different things. Everything my friend had to say was already well known to us, his cronies and associates, and wasn’t the business of the general public. Now that he has made it a public issue, the wise and the foolish will feast on it, thereby extending the shelf life of the humiliation and prolonging his anguish. An anguish he should have surrendered to God, who would have consoled and restored his dignity in no time. In my opinion, no one must have the power to trigger me into handing over my anguish to a mixed multitude for their perverse entertainment”.
