Studies and Google Trends results show cuckolding is increasing in popularity – but why do people do it?
The word cuckolding is when a man watches his wife or girlfriend have sex with another man, and it’s increasing in popularity.
Following a recent study which revealed that a lot of people are trying out cuckolding, the Metro UK conducted a few interviews with some men via an anonymous sex app called Whiplr to discuss cuckolding.
29-year-old Simon, an IT consultant from London, says he likes to watch other men have sex with his girlfriend.
According to him, “I’ve been into cuckolding for a while and do it with my girlfriend,” he said.
“What I like most is the feeling of helplessness. I guess that’s the turn-on, watching my girlfriend being taken by another man in front of me. I’m very dominant when we’re alone, but when another man joins us, I’m the cuck.
“But I don’t interact with the man, it’s more about watching them. It’s made us more passionate as a couple, although we have rules while we do it. Newbies who are starting out should take it slow and not dive in head-first. Things can go awfully wrong if the couple aren’t sure they would like it.”
Other men also revealed what they like about cuckolding. Read below.
John, 45, senior vice president in finance, Paris.
I love being in control of both a woman as a submissive and her man, especially when he is restrained. It helps men who feel inadequate with their partner, but it’s not just about sexual ability. It can also be about their fear of losing their woman, penis size or a lack of business success. Cuckolding varies dramatically. From sessions where the husband just watches to the extreme, where I humiliate them with various demands.
Harry, 55, banker, London
I enjoy being the man invited to please a wife in front of her hubby. A few days ago, I visited a couple and was there for several hours. The husband was ordered to make us coffee and cheese toasties, but I also gave him sexual orders. This particular husband is bi-sexual and will watch, as well as give me oral sex. He especially likes the humiliation of seeing his wife enjoy sex with another man. Sometimes, he’ll also be allowed to have sex with her.
William, 37, via Cuckold Forum Net
It’s been a 10-year process and I never knew it would lead to this. Shortly before my wife and I got married, I admitted to being bi-sexual and a cross-dresser. I have always been very feminine. We visited an adult bookstore together, which had glory holes. She kept asking me to look into the hole, and duck. Later I watched her have sex with a random man’s penis.
Jerobi, 28, via Whiplr.
The main reason I like cuckolding is because it’s completely backwards and doesn’t make any sense. I like the rejection and the humiliation. I’m normally dominant but I can also be submissive. I perform tasks, but nothing beyond oral sex on either him or her. I’m 99% straight, but in the heat of the moment I can give a guy a blow job. Once you get the girl of your dreams, you’re bored. The best way to keep it spicy is by letting her turn you down. And what better way for her to do that, than to have sex with another man right in front of you?
David via Whiplr.
The biggest turn-on is knowing my partner is getting pleasure from the activity. Seeing the pleasure consume her mind and body, whether it’s her having sex with another man or given oral sex by a woman.
Sam, 31, lawyer, Toronto.
I would assume what turns people on about cuckolding is different for each person. For me, it’s fun watching my partner experience something new, that she may have not tried before. There’s been plenty of jealousy though, especially when my girlfriend and I started out with cuckolding. I’ve been the dominant one, but I would much rather watch her tackle something outside of her realm. I love participating as much as being the voyeur. There have been occasions where I’ve sexually engaged with the other man, too.
Elliott, 37, media exec, London
I enjoy humiliating the men. I’ll make the husband bring me beer, then I’ll proceed to drink it with his wife sitting on my lap. Sex-wise though, it’s about sating the wife’s need for a proper man. The cuck is always banished from the room. If he is good, I get the wife to call him in. The husbands seem to get off on being bested and are usually the ones to arrange the play session.