How your character and attitude defines your life and destiny


It is a common saying that a man’s character defines his fate in life.

Thomas Jefferson, the third President of the United States (US), said: “Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude, from achieving his goal and nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude from Failure”.

I have watched pitiably how people self sabotage themselves by seeking spiritual solutions to character deficit issues. They look around at everybody as suspects for their predicaments while their greatest enemy is their character which is indwelling with them.

What we often call our destiny is truly a manifestation of our character, and since our characters can change, our destiny can also be altered.

Many people will begin to argue back and forth on this intriguing issue, but my main purpose of writing this piece is not to get involved in arguments. Arguments don’t improve the validity of a truth they only determine how long it would take before you realise it.

Most people believe that we can pray ourselves to success and get away with virtually anything if we become a stickler to some prayer routines. But there is no amount of spiritual penance that can substitute for character. Sometimes, you need character, not prayer.

Dutch Sheets said: “Prayer is not a check request asking for things from God; it is a deposit slip a way of depositing God’s character into our bankrupt souls”.

British writer and politician, Thomas Macaulay (1800-1859), said: “The measure of a man’s character is what he would do if he knew it will never be found out”.

I have often said that what would ultimately destroy a man going to high places in life is not really the enemies that are waiting for him there, but the character that is following him.

However, I want to emphatically underline the fact that this write-up is not meant to trivialise prayers in any way. I have observed that many people take character for granted, while overzealously tuning on into their spiritual mode.

We have become so spiritually in tune through prayers that we neglect the place of character and our relationship with people. Many are actually ‘heavenly’ bound, but with no earthly relevance. You can speak with spiritual eloquence, pray in public and maintain a holy appearance, but it is your behavior and character that will actually trigger the manifestation of all that God has for you.

You must learn to treat people with courtesy.

The Shunammite woman in the bible must have been praying for a child all through her life. But by being hospitable to a man of God, she eventually got her much-awaited miracle. It wasn’t prayer that opened the door for her; it was her character. Assuming she wasn’t hospitable, she would have missed a critical miracle.

Many times, we pray, fast and bind demons that don’t exist when our real demons are just our greatly flawed character.

Character affects destiny, many have insulted people that were divinely placed and orchestrated to help them fulfil their destiny others are keeping malice with their destiny helpers thereby chasing away destiny with their bad Attitude.

If you want to fulfill destiny in life you should learn to Treat people with respect and courtesy.

Never look down on anybody. God can use anyone to change your story.

Abigail Van Buren said: “The best index to a person’s character is how he/she treats people who can’t do him/her any good, and how he treats people who can’t fight back”.

You can easily judge the character of a man by how he treats those who can do nothing for him. The way we treat people we think can’t help or hurt us, like housekeepers, waiters, and secretaries, tells much about our character than how we treat people we think are important.

How do you treat people?

One of the most impressive architectural feats and the greatest military defence project in history is the Great Wall of China. In 1987, it was designated a World Heritage site, and a popular controversial claim that emerged in the 20th century holds that it is the only man made structure that is visible from space.

Originally conceived by Emperor Qin Shi Huang in the 3rd Century B.C. as a means of preventing incursions from Mongolians and barbarian nomads into the Chinese Empire, the wall is one of the most extensive construction projects ever completed.
History has it that when the ancient Chinese decided to live in peace, they made the Great Wall of China; they thought no one could climb it due to its height. During the first 100 years of its existence, the Chinese were invaded thrice and every time, the hordes of enemy infantry had no need of penetrating or climbing over the wall, because each time, they bribed the guards and came through the doors.The Chinese built the wall, but forgot the character of the guards watching over the wall. Though the Great Wall has over the years become a powerful symbol of the country’s enduring strength and spirit, but it has actually been a good reminder to the Chinese of how human character and attitude can affect his life and destiny.

The Chinese realised much later that the best defence against the enemy is not a fortified wall, but a fortified character. Thus, the building of human character comes before building of anything else.

Work seriously on your character and attitude towards life and destiny. Build relationships, and don’t ever forget that God will always use man. Be mindful of your words and how you speak to people.

I want to say emphatically that character is not optional; it is sacrosanct to the future that God has planned for you. No matter where you place prayers, character matters. The greatest tragedy in life is living without a good character. A man without character is recklessly alive.

William Shakespeare captured it succinctly when he said: “The fault is not in our stars, but in ourselves”

Peter Schutz, the former chief executive officer of Porsche said: “Hire Character, Train Skills”.

Finally, back in the days when Germany was divided, a huge wall separated East and West Berlin. One day, some people in East Berlin took a truck load of garbage and dumped it on the West Berlin side.

The people of West Berlin could have done the same thing, but they didn’t. Instead they took a truck load of canned goods, bread, milk and other provisions, and neatly stacked it on the East Berlin side.

On top of this stack they placed the sign: “You Can’t Give What You Don’t Have”.

How very true this is about humans because You can only give what you have.

The Japanese auto gaint Toyota puts it this way “”Good thinking-Good Product”. which literally means Good Character-Good Destiny.