Lagos-based cleric, Kingsley Okonkwo, has appealed to women to always ensure they ask men where their relationship is heading to so a to avoid time wasting. While preaching in church, the cleric said
‘’Women ask the best questions when they are not in love. Once a woman is in love, she doesn’t know the question to ask. If you are a woman, one of the things you need to know about relationship is that it is important to define relationships, make sure you know what you are in.
Women are afraid and ashamed to define relationships and it puts them in trouble. Always get ‘’what” clear. I tell ladies don’t be available for dating, be available for marriage.
Someone will say ‘will I not date before marriage’? We date with purpose. there is an end point. Don’t just date for dating sake. Many women go about saying the man broke my heart. He didn’t break your heart. You broke your heart. A man came and ‘I want to date you and you said ’yes’ and he dated you for seven years. Has he lied?
Women are the ones that tell lies…’He broke my heart’. He didn’t break your heart. He said ‘I came to date you’. He said ‘will you date’ and you said ‘yes’. He dated you for seven years and said ‘’now you are outdated’ He did exactly what he said.
Don’t sign up for those indefinite relationships.”