Friends-with-benefits is a popular concept describing two people who are cordial, enjoy a sexual relationship with each other, but with no strings attached.
What is a “friends with benefits” relationship?
In the most basic sense, a friends with benefits relationship is one in which two people are physically intimate with one another, yet they’re not committed to each other in any way. In other words, people involved in a friends with benefits relationship clearly enjoy spending time together and hooking up, but their relationship isn’t romantic and has no strings attached.
Is a friends with benefits relationship right for you?
If you’re thinking about entering into a friends with benefits relationship, there are five key points to keep in mind that’ll help you determine if this casual connection is truly beneficial for you in every respect.
1.You are neither looking to commit to this person nor expect them to commit to you.
2. are you and this person are on the same page about your FWB relationship.
3.This is the kind of relationship that you truly want with this person.
4.Understand that this person may be with other people.
5.You both enjoy the FWB relationship.
Basically, it’s a situation where two friends decide to get sexual but not committed to each other. The occurrence of this is actually quite common, and with movies like “Friends With Benefits” and “No Strings Attached” further pushing the narrative in recent times, there is no doubt that it exists well around us.
How much, though, is the benefit people get from these friends-with-benefits situations? Do they even get any at all?
The obvious first thing anyone would want to say is sex. And in a way, sex may be referred to as a ‘benefit’ but aside this, what else is the point of this kind of relationship? With traditional relationships, one expects more than sex. One expects, and gets emotional support, partnership, loyalty, care, love and all those good stuff that comes with booing up. The same can’t really be said for friends-with-benefits situation-ships.
According to Sex therapist Ian Kerner, when you go down this road sex may be all you get, alongside the possibility of losing your friend along the way.
“A FWB situation puts your precious friendship at risk. Even when we have no intention of letting it get messy, sex has a tendency to muddle your feelings,” he tells Cosmopolitan.
This is not to say that all FWB relationships end badly. Some of them actually transcend that physical relationship to become a real, committed one.
Heidi Reeder, Ph. D. shared with Psychology Today that relationships can get better after being FBWs.
“About 76 percent of those who ‘went there’ with a friend said the relationship got better. Better! Okay, the reality is about half of these folks started dating their friend after the fun, even though that wasn’t their original intention. But the other half kept on as friends—friends who said the quality of the friendship bond increased,” Reader said.
So obviously, the only sure benefit you’re getting in a FWB relationship is sex, and that could actually be good or bad thing. Because, really, if the sex is bad, can it count as a benefit?