Uriel Oputa is dishing out relationship advise, with regards to women who put a lot of effort into relationships that have no headway.
The reality star spoke extensively about what men think about in relationships, and what motivates them to choose a lover in the first place.
In her post, Uriel wrote;
“”Sometimes, I really pity some women. I had to learn the hard way. Look at all the effort some girls put in just to prove they’re good girlfriends.
Here’s the truth: a man knows from day one if he sees a future with you. If he’s serious, you
don’t need to break your back washing, cooking, or running errands to prove your worth.
Go clean his entire house, even his grandparents’ house, it won’t make him stay if he doesn’t want to. As for me, don’t meet me expecting me to cook or play house. I know my
worth.
Men know I can cook, but that doesn’t mean I’m going to start doing wifey duties for free. It’s a lesson many learn too late – all the washing and bending over backward won’t
change a thing if he’s not serious. Take note, ladies!. I have four brothers, I hear inside gist”
Going forward, Uriel went into an in-depth explanation of what will keep a man, and what drives their decisions.
‘”A man will only stay if he wants to stay. No amount of nagging, pleading, or intimacy will change that.
Why? Let me explain. Men are wired differently when it comes to commitment,psychologically, they tend to be more straightforward in how they make decisions about relationships.
While women often weigh emotions, shared
experiences, and long-term dreams, men generally take a more binary approach: they’re either in or out from the start.
Men are biologically predisposed to focus on solutions and outcomes, and this affects how they see relationships too.
Their commitment often comes down to what they’ve decided early on-no amount of bending over backward will change their mind if they’ve already made up their mind.
So, ladies, remember: you can’t ‘convince’ someone to love you or stay if it isn’t what they already feel or want.”